It’s easy to take things personally when they affect us directly. But sometimes we can take things too personally, even when they don’t have anything to do with us. Both ways can lead to a lot of stress and unhappiness in our lives. The good news is that there are ways to stop taking things so personally, and it starts with how you talk to yourself. If you take things too personally, try using the following affirmations for a while and see what shifts in your life.
11 Things To Tell Yourself So You Can Stop Taking Things Personally
1. I Am Not Responsible For Other People’s Happiness
When we feel responsible for other people’s happiness, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. We start to believe that it’s our job to make sure everyone is always happy, and when they’re not, we take it personally. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, and it keeps us from enjoying our own lives.
Remember, happiness is a state of mind that comes from within. It is not dependent on others or outside circumstances.
Therefore, if someone else isn’t happy, it’s because of them, not you.
2. Their Other Emotions Are Not My Responsibility Either
Just like with responsibility for happiness, when we take on the responsibility for other people’s emotions, we’re setting ourselves up for failure. We can’t control how other people feel, and trying to do so will only lead to stress and self-blame.
3. I Am Not Responsible For Their Actions
Similarly, we are not responsible for the actions of others. We cannot control what they do or how they act, and trying to do so will only lead to frustration and anger.
Therefore, if someone acts in a bad way around you, don’t take it personally. It’s not your fault, no matter what is going on. They are choosing to act that way based on their thoughts and emotions, and if it was someone else in your shoes, they would likely act the same way.
4. I AM In Control Of My Own Emotions
It’s important to remember that we are in control of our own emotions. We get to choose how we react to the things that happen in our lives, and we don’t have to let others dictate our moods.
How can you gain more control of your emotions?
One of the most important things to remember is that your emotions are simply a response to your thoughts. If you want to feel different, you need to start by changing the way you think. That’s why affirmations are so important. They bring new ways of thinking into your awareness and can change the way you think and then how you feel and behave. Pay attention to the negative thoughts that are running through your head and replace them with positive ones.
Another helpful tip is to practice mindfulness. This involves being present at the moment and accepting your emotions without judgment. It can be difficult at first, but with practice, it will become easier and more natural and help you control your emotions.
5. I Am Allowed To Feel However I Want
Another thing to remember is that we are allowed to feel however we want to feel. Just because someone else is unhappy doesn’t mean we have to be too. And just because someone else is happy, doesn’t mean we have to be happy.
In short, we can choose to be happy, even when others are not, and this helps us let go of things and not take them personally.
6. Their Opinion Of Me Does Not Matter
One of the best ways to stop taking things personally is to remember that other people’s opinions of us don’t matter. What matters is what we think of ourselves, and we don’t need anyone else’s approval to be happy and confident.
Therefore, if you find someone telling you that you are not good enough, don’t take it personally. That’s their opinion and if you don’t believe it to be true, then it can’t affect you.
7. I Am In Control Of My Own Life
When we feel in control of our lives, we are less likely to take things personally. We feel confident and capable, and we believe that we can handle whatever life throws our way. As a result, we are less likely to see the actions of others as a reflection of our own worth.
We can brush off criticism and shrug off rejections because we know that we are ultimately in charge of our own lives.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t care about what others think of us. But it does mean that we are less likely to be hurt by their words and actions. Instead, we focus on living our best life, regardless of what others may think or say.
8. I Am Doing The Best I Can
Remember that you’re doing the best you can! You’re human, and you’re going to make mistakes sometimes. But as long as you’re trying your best, that’s all that matters. If other people can’t understand that, then that’s their problem. Don’t take their ignorance personally.
9. I Am Loved And Supported By Others
Another thing to remember is that you are loved and supported by others! There are people in your life who care about you and want to see you succeed.
In other words, if a stranger tells you something about yourself, even when they don’t love you let alone know you, why take it personally? They have no information about you, and they are solely speaking out of their own thoughts, fears, or sadness.
10. I Am Worthy Of Love And Respect
Remember that you are worthy of love and respect! You deserve to be treated well, and you don’t have to put up with anything less.
When someone treats you poorly, you have two options.
- You can let it roll off your shoulders knowing that you are not worthy of being treated poorly and then get on with your day.
- You can take it personally and let it affect how you feel about yourself and everything you do.
When you feel worthy of love and respect, you will almost always choose to let it roll off your shoulders.
11. I Am Not Perfect And That’s OK
And finally, remember that you are not perfect, and that’s okay! You don’t need to be perfect to have a good life. No one is perfect, and we all have room for improvement. But that doesn’t mean we’re not good enough just as we are.
In other words, if someone tries to make you feel bad for not being perfect, don’t take it personally. They obviously are not aware that being perfect is not a thing and you can only imagine how hard they must be on themselves.
Bottom line: If you’re struggling with taking things too personally, use these 11 affirmations often until they become permanent beliefs. They can help you see yourself and the world around you in a new, more positive light. With time and practice, it will become easier and easier to stop taking things so personally. And as you do, you’ll find that your life becomes much more enjoyable and stress-free.