There’s an old saying that goes, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” It’s a good rule of thumb to live by, especially when it comes to avoiding arguments. When someone starts throwing insults your way or trying to get you riled up, it’s best not to engage them. Responding with anger will only escalate the situation and could lead to an all-out brawl.
But what if you can’t just walk away? What if the person is your boss or a family member? In those cases, it’s helpful to have a few affirmations up your sleeve that will help keep you calm and level-headed. Here are ten affirmations that can help you avoid getting sucked into an argument.
10 Affirmations That Will Help You Avoid An Argument
1. I Am In Control Of My Emotions
When someone is trying to goad you into an argument, it’s important to remember that you are in control of your own emotions. You can choose to react with anger, or you can choose to remain calm.
Therefore, decide what you want to feel in this situation, such as curiosity, amusement, compassion, or love, and then take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you are the one in control.
2. I Will Not Stoop To Their Level
It can be tempting to fight fire with fire when someone is being belligerent, but it’s important to resist that urge. If you start yelling and insulting the other person, you’re only sinking to their level where bad things can happen. By remaining calm and collected, you’ll be able to avoid getting sucked into an argument.
For instance, if a customer is acting like a belligerent child, you might be tempted to tell them off. But if you do, you’ll only end up stooping to their level and possibly getting fired. Instead, try repeating this affirmation to yourself to maintain a higher level of dignity and see how it helps diffuse the situation.
3. I Am Not Responsible For Their Happiness
It’s easy to get wrapped up in trying to please other people, but at the end of the day, you are not responsible for their happiness. You can’t control how they feel or what they do. All you can do is control your own actions and reactions.
If someone is trying to start an argument with you, it’s likely because they’re feeling unhappy or frustrated with something else in their life. But that’s not your problem. You can’t fix it and you shouldn’t try. Just let them know that you’re not going to argue with them and walk away.
4. I Refuse To Engage In Negative Energy
Arguments are fueled by negative energy. The more you engage with someone who is trying to start an argument, the more negative energy will build up. Eventually, that negative energy will explode, and everyone involved will end up feeling worse.
When you feel someone starting to suck you into an argument, just say to yourself, “I refuse to engage in negative energy” and walk away. It’s not worth your time or energy to get sucked into a useless argument.
5. I Am Surrounded By Love And Light
This affirmation is a great reminder that, no matter what anyone says or does, you are surrounded by love and light. The love and light might not be coming from the person who is trying to start an argument with you, but it’s still there. Keep your focus on that love and light and let it fill you up.
You may want to visualize actually being surrounded by love and light to help you make the most of this affirmation around someone who is trying to start a fight with you. Picture yourself in a bubble of whatever color you associate with love. Feel the warmth of the bubble and let it guide you towards the actions you take next.
6. I Am At Peace
When you’re feeling calm and collected, it’s much harder for someone to get under your skin. So, when someone is trying to start an argument, just repeat this affirmation to yourself and picture yourself surrounded by peaceful energy. The more you focus on feeling at peace, the less likely you are to get sucked into an argument.
7. I Am Releasing All Judgment
This is a great way to avoid getting sucked into an argument.
It’s easy to judge someone who is trying to start an argument with you. But when you judge them, you’re only feeding into the negative energy. Instead of judging them, try to release all judgment.
If you must judge, try to see them as a hurting person who is just lashing out. This will help you have compassion and can help you to avoid arguing with them.
8. I Am Sending Them Love
This affirmation is a great way to diffuse a tense situation. When you send someone love, it’s hard for them to stay angry with you. They might not even know why, but they’ll feel calmer and more at ease.
If you find yourself in the middle of an argument, just take a deep breath and send the other person love. See how it changes the energy between you and helps you avoid getting sucked into the argument.
9. I Am Grateful For This Opportunity To Practice Patience
Gratitude can shift your negative state to a positive one very quickly.
Arguments are a great opportunity to practice patience. It’s easy to get impatient when someone is trying to push your buttons, but if you can remain patient, you’ll come out of the situation feeling stronger and more at peace.
So, next time someone is trying to start an argument with you, be grateful for the opportunity to practice patience. It’s a valuable skill to have and it will help you in all areas of your life.
10. I Am Surrounded By People Who Love And Respect Me
This affirmation is a great reminder that, no matter what anyone says or does, there are people in your life who love and respect you. Keep your focus on those people and let their love and respect fill you up. Then, you’ll be less likely to get pulled into an argument with someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart.